"can men and women really be just friends??" straight people are so weird
Nope. The problem is that the word “bully” simplifies the narrative. It’s a TV trope rather than a real person who actually exists. I head up a few of the anti-bullying things my school does, and what we find in most of our polls is that almost every student says they’ve been bullied and almost no student admits to bullying. To me, that means that there’s a rampant sense of entitlement and sensitivity, where every student thinks that nothing they do counts as bullying, but every time someone isn’t nice to them they’re being bullied. Does that make sense? Everybody thinks they’re being bullied by everybody, but nobody thinks they’re bullying anybody else.
We can’t look at bullying as if these are just kids who woke up one day and decided to be mean for no reason, because that’s just not the way it works. We need to stop acting like only muscled up jocks from bad homes can be bullies, and we need to stop acting like every cross word counts as bullying.
I only ever hear people either casually suggesting bullying should stop or that bullying toughens up kids so it’s healthy, and I’m sick of both sides. People also call it bullying so that they can imagine that thin white nerdy kids are who get bullied. Calling it bullying is a way out of calling it what it is, homophobia, racism, misogyny, ableism, fatphobia, and transphobia. People like to think of kids as KKK members much less than they like to think of adults as kkk members so if we say “bullying” then it’s mean kids calling fat black girls and thin white boys the same generic insults loudly and those kids should just be nice. they definitely don’t say anything that warrants them to actually have to have a conversation about why they say or think what they do, they don’t need to have their probably-asshole parents confronted about the thoughts and ideas they send their kids to school with.
School is just a petri dish to play out the privilege and oppressive behaviors that kids learn from their parents, each other, and larger culture (including things as “seemibgly harmless” as kids television). To say that these exact same behaviors are not active instances of oppression is 1) ludicrous and 2) an insult to anyone who has ever been faced with those acts. School hallways are no different than the sidewalks, than corporate water coolers, even cyber spaces.
i want pacific rim to be our generations star wars and by that i mean i want six trillion expanded universe novels about everybody that appeared on screen i want graphic novel spin offs and in thirty years i want to be able to complain about the remake
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